This question by Orange in one of the best voice adverts ever made by Orange got me thinking; In one of the advert versions, Njoro, a shilling conscious vegetable and fruits vendor, asks this question in his hard to ignore voice piercing through a busy market place. Then comes the smooth Siprosa with her well oiled face seated in her noticeable domain where she is queen. The heavy vocabulary makes a humongous conviction to stop and listen to her. Colo Stero passionately does his chocha and finally asks the question too. Directly translated, it’s simply asks, Up to when will you complain? A derived meaning of the question is that it’s high time one stopped making complaints. According to dictionary.com, to complain is to express dissatisfaction, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or grief; find fault:
In order to stop complaining, there has to be a remedy for the resentment or a solution to what is causing one’s dissatisfaction. According to Kowalski, as quoted in an article titled “Do you complain too much?” published in a website webMD.com, there are two basic categories of complaints: instrumental and expressive. Instrumental complaints are goal oriented, meaning that we verbalize the problem in hopes of bringing about change. e.g, you rant to your room mate about how messy the room is because you’re hoping he’ll offer to help clean it up. Expressive complaints have a different mission: to let the speaker get something off her chest. When you call a friend to wail that all three kids have strep at the same time, you’re not looking for medical advice. It’s acknowledgment and sympathy you’re after. Which category are you in when you complain?
Effects of complaining
Complaining is almost never a positive reaction to our circumstance. According to an article by Joshua Becker published on becomingminimalist.com with the title how to complain less, he notes that this response ought to be reconsidered in our lives because it is rarely healthy. In fact, there are many negative outcomes to this reaction. Complaining feeds and breeds a negative response. Additionally,
- It fosters a negative attitude. Complaining draws our attention to the negative aspects and circumstance around us. And focusing on the negatives always brings about greater negativity. Complaining never results in joy—it only sinks us deeper into our misery.
- It negatively impacts those around us. Complaints spread negativity. By focusing on and drawing attention to the problems and discomforts around us, we direct other people towards it too. Misery loves company.
- It doesn’t change our circumstance. Taking action does. But complaining words by themselves do not.
- It disqualifies the value of discomfort in our lives. Discomfort—both physical and emotional—can have profound benefit for our lives. There are countless life lessons that can only be learned by embracing discomfort: patience and perseverance just to mention a few. Become OK with discomfort. You’ll be glad you did.
- It is highly unattractive. It is unenjoyable to spend time around people who constantly highlight the negatives. And not only unattractive, the self-centered emphasis of complaining can be annoying as well.
- It leaves us in victim-mode. One of the greatest obstacles to lasting change is blame. And complaining finds its foundation almost entirely in blame.
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